A New Relationship For 2010

First I would like to say that I hope that you are not going to be alone this Holiday Season, there is not much worse than tat, and I promise you I know, I have been there and although it was a long while ago now I still remember the loneliness, the talking to yourself and the wondering whether you should bother to cook for one.

Honestly I promise that together you and I ad of course www.easilyfriends.com will do something positive about you being alone soon, that is of course if you have joined up to www.easilyfriends.com it is free and easy to use and will never charge you anything.

It is the fact that www.easilyfriends.com is free that I like it they want to help you and not help themselves to your hard earned cash.

So we are nearly into another year and after the fireworks have faded and the parties finished you will have a whole new year to focus on and we are going to find you a partner and turn your friendship into a relationship.

A lot of people have recently written to me asking the where I think the best place to meet a new friend would be and I have to say now after all of the information that has been passed to me from the people at www.easilyfriends.com I have to say that the internet is probably taking over as the place to meet people of both genders.

Obviously you have to be careful who you talk to but meeting someone on the internet is like meeting someone on a train or in a bar, what do you really know about them? Not much is the answer. Ok you'll say at least in a bar or on a train you will be able to see the person you are talking to but have you heard of skype and webcams yet?

Webcams are very handy and you can use them to have a face to face conversation with anyone anywhere and of course skype is like www.easilyfriends.com free to use which is great.

So I would like to suggest that if you are at a loose end this Christmas and New Year that you get yourself online, treat yourself to a webcam and a free copy of skype and get chatting to people.

And of course unless the person is in an internet café then you will be able to get to know more about him or her just by listening to the surrounding noise if there are children ask if they belong to the person you are talking to, if there is anything sinister or odd about the room the person is talking to you from then they might be the same and you will get to know much sooner than if you met this person in the street, in a bar or on a train.

Use technology to get a date and when you are on the date use the same safeguards you always use a lot of people are doing that these days.

Happy Christmas to all my readers.

Abigail

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<a href="http://www.easilyfriends.com/">www.easilyfriends.com</a> Survey Snippets

I promised my readers before the end of the year I would give them a few more snippets from our recent survey and here are some interesting little 'factletes' about what men and women think on a range of things from commitment to who says those fateful words "I love you" first.

63% of women say that the a man says 'I love you' first.

11% of all men believe that finding a life partner is important.

6% of all women are looking seriously looking for a life partner.

40% of all women consider that a man's education is more important than whether he is handsome or not.

34% of all women believe that a deposit on a home is a more significant sign of commitment than an engagement ring.

29% of all women spend more time shopping than they do looking for life partner.

As a rule people either men or women go on 100 dates before they marry.

8 out of 10 singles believe that the first kiss is a very good indication what their rest of any relationship will be like.

Everyone here at www.easilyfriends.com would like to wish all of you a Merry Happy Christmas and a Very Happy New Year!

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Tuesday Is Research Day

Actually that is probably the wrong headline for today's article because I was going to start this article by saying that I thought I would give you a day off from percentages and suggestions and I mean, to I promise!

On a Tuesday I usually spend some time looking at dating sites, dating blogs and indeed all things dating, to see what my competition is doing and I have to say that I think that most of them have missed the fact that this is the season of goodwill to all, including 'men.'

What is wrong with my fellow female dating 'experts?' Why do they seem to hate men so much? Really the number of dating blogs with the word 'bastard' in is just frankly astonishing and to make matters worse the word that follows 'bastard' is men!

Come on ladies please give men a break, unless you are considering either living as a celibate or as a lesbian, we sort of need men, and if you don't, then the rest of us do and that means that we have to stop putting men down and worse calling them names. Please try to remember we are grown women and not in the second or third grade.

Men are not all bad you know! If you have had a bad one then I am sorry for you, but you are/were unlucky because for every bad man you have known there is a bad woman as well.

Which leads me to the real point of this blog. Try to remember why we seek the company of a partner, we do it because it makes us feel better basically, no other reason. If someone is not very nice they will demonstrate that side of their character and you should get rid of him or of course her. But never give up hope there is someone out there for you, you just haven't found them yet.

And remember that labelling all men or indeed women as bitches or bastards does no one any good, all men and women aren't bitches or bastards, they are simply your potential partners.

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When We Here At <a href="http://www.easilyfriends.com/">www.easilyfriends.com</a> Say That We Know Web Dating We Mean It

For most of this year the good people at www.easilyfriends.com have been looking very closely at the way in which their members have been using their web site and dating trends in general together with the way that people use www.easilyfriends.com and the internet in general to find friends and partners.

Now the people at www.easilyfriends.com have started to use that information to improve their already excellent web site and offer some of the non-confidential research to members and of course readers of my blog.

My last blog covered the interesting fact that a large number of people around 50% log on to web sites such as www.easilyfriends.com specifically to find love, an encouraging fact if you are looking for someone to love yourself and probably the best reason to join www.easilyfriends.com which of course unlike other web sites doesn't ask you to pay for the privilege.

As part of our research we looked at the demographic of our website and discovered that although just over 50% of our members are men 53% to be precise the number of female members has significantly increased during 2009 and the trend continues.

This of course means that as we enter 2010 and the increase in the number of woman joining www.easilyfriends.com rises they may well soon out number men and that will I am pretty confident make using www.easilyfriends.com a lot nicer for women and men alike.

All of which means whether you are male or female you are going to really enjoy visiting www.easilyfriends.com even more especially because they are the best free web dating service and that means that you don't have to be alone.

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Log On For Love

Recent studies in America have shown that the way society works is changing and nearly 50% of all people who use the internet for dating log on to find love!

That of course is no surprise really, every decade or so the way that we human beings do things changes and the last two decades have probably been the ones where there have been the most significant changes in the way society works especially when you look at the way we today go about looking for someone to love.

Of course the fact that nearly 50% of all people who use the internet for dating log on to find love, using online dating sites such as www.easilyfriends.com is really good news and not just for dating sites like www.easilyfriends.com.

The good news is that with so many people logging on to the internet to find love then it is easier for everyone to do the same, assuming that you are using a safe, reputable and of course free dating website such as www.easilyfriends.com.

If you want to find love then there are an enormous number of benefits that come from using the internet. You can get to know the person you are interested in rather well before you actually meet them. When you write to each other or use instant messaging it is surprising just how much you get to hear about the person you are writing to. There is less to worry about when you are not face to face and so you can build quite a rapport before that crucial first date.

When you communicate with each other on a dating site like www.easilyfriends.com no matter for how long, you begin to build a little 'history' that is just 'yours' and that is something that you have in common just between the two of you and with no one else.

So if you are looking for love, then it is true to say that there are few better places to look than on line at specialist dating sites such as www.easilyfriends.com.

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Dating Tips

In all honesty I do tend, as you know, to shy away from specific offering dating tips, and that is because we are all different and what would for me might not work for you, so i try just to offer advice which you dear reader can interpret and use in a way that suits you and your personality best.

But I was asked the same question recently by a number of people recently and so I thought I would share my answer with you all.

The question was simple but it would seem the subject bothers a lot of people on a date for the first or second time, and that questions is "how do you keep the conversation going?"

Talking to someone who you don't know very well is difficult for some people and so the best way to overcome any awkward silence is to have a few topics or indeed questions of your own stored away in your memory.

I am not suggesting that you begin an interrogation and I am not suggesting that all silences are awkward, remember a peaceful moment in a date is something you remember, they often tend to lead to kissing.

So the sort of questions to ask are ones that have pretty obvious answers. What would you do with a million pounds? Is a good one and will let you know a little more about the person you are talking to.

Holidays are great topics of conversation, tell the person you are on a date with where you went last, where you would like to go next and you will find that all sorts of conversational directions flow from a simple sentence.

If you use general subjects you will be amazed just how much the conversation will flow. Just try to relax and if you can't remember any of the questions you thought about, sincere compliments always break the ice I have found.

At the end of the evening if you have anything in common you will have discovered some of it by chatting, and asking questions and that way you will both know if there is going to be a follow up date.

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More About Me - Well You Actually!

Before you start dating seriously it is worth having a think about who you are, what you like to do, what your ambitions are and where you would like to be in say five years time.

If you do this then you will have a really good idea of who you are, because not many of us know exactly who we are. If you sit down now with paper and a pen and list ten things about you and what you want I expect like most people you would get stuck at number five or six.

There is a reason for getting stuck at number five or six and that is simply that we don't really know ourselves very well, what it is that we want and indeed where we want to go, and if we don't know those key elements of our lives how on earth are we going to be happy with a stranger who is trying to get to know us?

We are not are we?

At least we have a head start on the poor unfortunate person trying to get to know us, we have had the whole of our lives so far to get to know ourselves.

So the time you take to really understand yourself, what you want, who you are and so on is a very important few minutes in our lives.

The questions that you should ask yourself to discover who you are, are not unlike the ones an employer would ask oddly enough when you think about it and so if you do this little exercise you will also have the answers to what might occasionally be some difficult to answer questions at a job interview.

When you have these answers you will know a little more about yourself and the direction that you should be heading in, and then you will be able first to talk or write freely about who you are and what you want and of course you will have a much better idea about the type of partner you should be looking for, and don't let anyone confuse you we all have our 'types' people who will make the perfect partner or as close to perfection as us humans can get.

You may also enjoy the journey that bring you to self awareness and self understanding, it is an interesting one because of course it is all about you.

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As Recommended By The Daily Telegraph

"More people than ever will use dating websites this winter to find their perfect partner." According to the Daily Telegraph and so it has never been a better time to use www.easilyfriends.com.

This is really good news for all dating sites and the members who are there already. So what are you waiting for let's prove the Daily Telegraph right and join now.

But remember not all dating websites are first of all free unlike www.easilyfriends.com and then secondly some website actually sell your information to other dating sites, especially ones that have just started so read the small print before you join, unless the dating site you are considering joining says in block capitals WE WILL NEVER SELL YOUR MEMBERSHIP DETAILS EVER as those nice people at www.easilyfriends.com do.

Have fun and be safe this Christmas and remember because of sites just like www.easilyfriends.com. you don't have to be alone at Christmas or indeed the New Year.

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A Great Place To Date

I heard to my horror the other day that couples on a first date are going to Karaoke Bars! No wonder so many people complain that they don't get a second date!

If you are serious about dating and let's face it who isn't then a Karaoke Bar as a venue for a first date is frankly mad.

A first date is supposed to be a time when you begin to get to know the person you rather like and has asked you or you have asked them out on a date.

Candlelit dinners are maybe a bit passé but at least you can hear yourselves talk in a Karaoke Bar all you will hear is several different versions of Elvis songs being strangled by people who probably can't tell you Elvis's surname.

So if a candlelit dinner in a nice restaurant is not your cup of Cappuccino then there are other places diners are nice and you can usually has a pleasant enough evening in one with a nice walk through the city. But believe it or not one of the best places to have a chat and an enjoyable time in my book at the moment is bowling and that is because you get to do a little exercise and in between actually bowling you can have little chats.

Little chats are handy because you tend never to run out of things to say and in between them you have plenty of time to think of what you will say next.

Then after the game you can have a snack and a drink in the bar without Karaoke happily. You should try it and let me know if it works for you, you never know you might even see me bowling I actually go once a week and love it.

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Just A Quick Tip

If you are using a dating website such as the www.easilyfriends.com, then it is a really good idea to spruce up and spring clean your profile.

The people at the www.easilyfriends.com have discovered, in some research they have been doing recently, that if you want to improve your chances of finding a partner on their site all you have to do is just add a new photograph and that will increase your chance of being contacted by 62%.

So if you have a moment then you can spend it wisely, if that is, you are looking for a new partner.

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Saying Goodnight On A First Date!

Are there any rules for saying goodnight on a first date? Well honestly there aren't and don't let any silly website scribbler tell you any different, you have to use your commonsense and trust your instinct.

In addition if you use the guideline that sex on a first date is a merely a one night stand and not usually the beginning of something more serious then you will be set up for any date.

Always remember though that sex on a first date can be rather enjoyable for both men and women and there is nothing wrong with it, obviously you must use protection but that is there is no reason why if that is what you want that you don't enjoy yourself.

So that answers the question of whether to have sex on a first date, however if you think that 'this' first date might be something more than just a one night stand I would tend to be patient.

When do you say good night on a first date? Well you can say good night and walk away from a date at any time especially if things aren't going well and you don't want to prolong the agony and you can, of course, do this at any time during the date, you don't need an excuse good night is enough.

Happily the two little words 'good night' are pretty final and don't have much of come back.

Really there are lots of other ways to say good night, but whether the date went well or not 'good night' is really the best way to say that you want to head home.

You can add that your date can walk you to your car or public transport because unless you want to invite them home for 'coffee' then you have set a point at which the date will definitely end.

When you go on dates do always ensure you 'datesafe,' make sure that if this is a first date someone you know is aware of where you are going and what time to expect you home.

There aren't many homicidal maniacs out there contrary to what it sometimes seems like on the TV news, but and it is the biggest but in the world, you don't want to take 'that' chance ever do you?

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Flowers On A First Date?

The idea of giving a woman flowers on a first date is actually very sweet and although they could be a massive inconvenience through-out the whole date with both of you having to carry them, remember them and find somewhere to put them when you are on your date, that will all be forgotten in time if the relationship grows into something more than a first date.

However although the flowers from a first date would be a nice memory to have, giving flowers on a first date is a little forward don't you think? Flowers are a very personal gift and should be reserved for something special.

So on balance I think that you should concentrate on making the first date special and then if there are more dates you can think about giving your date flowers.

Lastly never ever buy flowers from a vendor with a bucket of Roses, you know the ones who visit restaurants and nightclubs with greasy hair and a matching smile.

These Roses are often on their last legs and worse they are usually wet and the water from them always stains.

But more importantly there is something dreadfully tacky about that sort of Rose seller which makes my blood run a little cooler; they are creepy and should be discouraged at all costs because they are almost certainly friends with the creeps who come around nightclubs with small animals to con you into having a picture taken with your date and a Chimp? Why I ask would you want to remember your date by having a picture of you and a tired Chimp?

And if you did wouldn't you then have to consider inviting the Chimp and plus one to the wedding? No of course you wouldn't so why would you want your picture taken with them ever?

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The Nonsense Written On Dating Advice Sites And Blogs

Every so often I trawl the web to see what my fellow dating advisers are talking about. It is not the most pleasurable experience because in the main they talk such a load on nonsense.

Every so often I would like to bring you a little of that nonsense and give you the advice that should have been given in the first place.

Here is the first then in a very occasional series and it is only occasional because I don't like trawling the web for this rubbish and not because here isn't vast amounts of it out there.

I promise you I saw this on a website who will remain nameless, it is their advice to women about men with smelly shoes!

"If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, dump him."

Ok here is what I would say on the subject if asked! First of all we all have smelly shoes, have you stuck your nose in your trainers recently? Even Prada trainers get a little how can I put this 'aromatic.' So don't forget that will you please none of us are superior to the others!

Then remember that if you can smell someone's feet so can they and they may well be embarrassed about it, this is where in normal conversation you can suggest ways to improve matters and even go shopping for insoles, hygiene products and even socks and shoes that can help.

It is possible that this is the help that the poor soul with the foot odour problem has been waiting for and of course it is good to share our problems - a problems shared is a problem halved as they say!

Even if you don't know someone very well but you like them it isn't rude to say darling we have to do something about 'those.' If you are sincere then it

Because a man or indeed a woman has smelly feet is not really a reason to dump anyone. If you know someone well enough they have probably mentioned why they prefer not to take their shoes off or that their feet do get a little rich, then all you do is suggest insoles that can help kill the bacteria that cause this problem and maybe when you have a bath together wash each other's feet - it is quite sexy especially if you massage oils into them afterwards.

If you like someone a lot then just because they have smelly feet, bad breath or worse is not a reason to "dump them" as my friends on the other site suggested and that is because if you are intent on having a relationship whether it is with the person with smelly feet or not, you are both jolly well going to have to work at it and not bail at the first hint of turbulence.

Really if we were all perfect we could be more choosy but we are humans and the last thing that humans ever are are perfect!

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